Sorry I’ve been inactive! Still working out the joys of moving, and then I spent 6+ hours working on a paper for one of my college classes.
I WILL try to be better at queuing and keeping up with my dashboard and posts. Hopefully soon I will start to create and queue up more DDlg-Problems.
I’m also looking for ideas for kinky posts/pictures to put up on my blog! Take a look at some of the pictures I’ve already done and send in your suggestions. I’ll work on these once I’ve finished the DDlg-Problems.
Thank you to everyone for your continued support!
~Love from Kit (Bunny)
Reblogging as an update (and also shameless self-promotion). ~Bunny
(EDIT: I will also answer all questions remaining in my inbox tomorrow, whether on this blog or my personal one, so send them in if you need an answer <3)
DO you know of any blogs or sites I can find info or idea for scenes and such for Mommy/little boy? All the age play stuff I find is for DD/lg and talks about dresses and other lg centered things...
Personally I don’t know any as it isn’t really my area of expertise, and I make up scenes as I go by the way they feel. I’m not entirely sure exactly what you are looking for, but keep in mind all things can be recreated and revised with a little bit of creativity.
Do our followers have any advice or help for the anon?
So I've told my boyfriend about this DDlg thing and he's read up on it and stuff but I don't think he really gets it. And he hasn't exactly said if he'd be okay with it. Do you have any advice on going further?
The best thing to do is sit down and ask him how he honestly feels about it. Keep in mind that really not all people are made for BDSM, and then a portion of people who are into BDSM won’t be into DDlg. If he seems very apprehensive about it, it might not necessarily be because he doesn’t understand it, but rather because it isn’t the thing for him.
Without knowing how much you’ve told him and he’s read, my best advice is simply sitting down and talking with him about it, and seeing if he has any questions.
Okay, so the last ask made me realize how many of you want to see the specific Problems and not wade through lots of asks, so I used the Mass Post Editor to make it easier for you all!!
All DDlg-Problems can now be found with this tag.
(EDIT: It is now the Purple button on our blog, replacing what was formerly the “Reblog” button as it was never really used.)
do you know any more lg blogs? i love your blog so muuuch♥♥
I’ve really put off answering this because there are little girl blogs all around you. I can’t pick out just a select few because none are better than the others, they are all wonderful and sweet and deserve just as much attention. Exploring the DDlg tag or finding friends in the community is a great way to start.
Thank you :) We’re glad you enjoy it.
Sir and I want to do a rewards program, do you think having a sticker board would work/be fun? Like every time I listen or be good, I get a sticker? :3 And then after I get so many stickers I get a reward? Like a stuffie or a coloring book?
I cannot judge what would work for you and what wouldn’t, but Sir and I had something like this and for us, simply “listening” or “being good” wasn’t a good enough reason for a reward. I had to accomplish a certain number of tasks such as doing the necessary household cleaning as well as my physical therapy, and writing and keeping up with hygiene to get rewards, and the rewards usually took several weeks to accomplish, so I had to work toward them consciously to achieve them.
My opinion is that rewards shouldn’t be handed out - if you want them, then you must put in the effort to get them. However, not every couple will function like Sir and I used to, and certainly not every little will need the strict guidelines and hard setup that I had.
do you guys have a specific link for the problem pictures aside from the archive?
I do not understand what you are asking.
(EDIT: If you mean a specific tag, there is no specific tag. The closest you’ll get is the submission tag. That being said, we use the same tags for every DDlg-Problem we post - oddly enough /tagged/ddlg-problems does not bring up the Problems, despite being the tag on all of them.)
I have a question for Sir. I'm a little, but I'm not sure if I'd go so far to say I want to be in a Dd/lg relationship. I mean, I'd love to have a Daddy. But I just don't think I would like being disciplined by my lover. I don't want him to set rules I have to follow and always feel like I'm below him. Is it possible to find someone in the BDSM community not like that? Or maybe someone softer? Or should I stick with vanilla relationships? I apologize if I sound really dumb. I'm just confused...
It’s not a dumb question at all.
First just to say, being in a DD/lg relationship is not someone being over the other. The Daddy Dom is not above the little. They are an equal partnership and love each other. Now a selfish wannabe “daddy” will try to say they are above you. No screw that. You are both on equal footing. That goes for any dynamic. BDSM or vanilla. You are equal partners.
For me being a Daddy Dom is supporting my little girl, pushing her to achieve things she never thought she could do. If she has an interest in say writing, I push her to write. I support her to write. When she gets frustrated I comfort her, when she is excited about what she wrote I read it and get excited as well. You love and support them. You help them achieve their goals and you watch them grow so to speak.
DD/lg and Other BDSM roles are power exchange. That is where the submissive (little) gives the Dom(Daddy) power over certain aspects of her life. Some go to a small extent like picking out clothes, rules with personal hygiene.
Example of rules I’ve used :
*May not touch yourself without my permission
*I pick out your panties everyday
*No cumming without permission
*Any drinking/smoking has to be approved by me.
Some rules are set up in a sexy way. Like the cumming rule. Other rules are for her saftey and happiness like the drinking rule. If my little was stressed out and not in a good place, I wouldn’t let her drink. Rules vary couple to couple
And some more extreme power exchange (Master/slave) Give up everything. Some littles dabble in M/s but not all. And you don’t have to.
I have not really heard of a DD/lg relationship where there are no rules. This is just from the couples I’ve seen on tumblr mainly. The rules are decided upon by both people. The Daddy can start them, but for me my little can help me decide what fits us both. What makes us both happy. and that is what DD/lg is about. Being Happy with your partner and living life. I am sure there are Daddy Doms who don’t give rules.( If you are one please let us know and I’ll post anything have to say.) I’m not saying stick with vanilla because I’m all for people exploring their sexuality and living the BDSM lifestyle. But possible make a exploration blog. And follow a bunch of Daddys/littles. ask them questions too. I will always try to help someone learn more because I myself love learning more about BDSM in general.
Thank you for your ask Anon I really hope this helped some. If you’d like to ask more feel free here or my personal blog. I will check both.
I know it was directed to Sir, but I can’t help but add my opinion here :) Personally, I think a DDlg relationship without rules is possible. DDlg is essentially what Sir said about, and it is also about love and trust. A Daddy or Mommy Dom is someone who you trust and feel comfortable enough to show the sensitive side of yourself to.
Now, because the little turns to the Daddy Dom for comfort, usually rules are involved, not to make you feel bad about yourself, but to guide you. As Sir said above, a Daddy Dom is never above you. They are your equals and you get just as much say in the relationship as they do. If a Daddy Dom doesn’t want to listen to what you have to say, then he’s going against your consent and isn’t a true Dom.
If you find someone who loves you, then they’ll understand your needs and will never force you to do more than you can do.
Is it normal for guys to only want quickies, and then go right back to playing his video games after he cums? Even though i don't cum?
No. If a man does this to you, dump him immediately.
I say this because his lack of care for your pleasure means he’s basically using you as a sex toy, and doesn’t care how you feel. You don’t deserve that at all. You matter, your pleasure matters, and ANYONE who feels that they you should give THEM pleasure but refuse to give it to you deserves to be celibate for life.
~Bunny, who has personally experienced this and feels very strongly about it.
Going to throw in my 2 cents. She said it really well. If he doesn’t care about your satisfaction enough to put down his damn games he doesn’t deserve you. I am an avid gamer, I love playing all kinds of video games. But when it comes to playing around sexually, that most definitely takes priority to video games.
You deserve pleasure and he doesn’t if he finishes and gets up and goes to a stupid game.
Is there a chance you could give me a basic outline of a DD/lg relationship? Sorry if you've gotten this question before, but I'm new to this whole type of thing and I think my boyfriend and I already act like this. I'd just like to know more to make sure! Thank you!! <3
Sorry this has taken me so long to respond to. The reasons why can be found in other posts, but basically relationship and personal problems on my end :) I hope I’m not too late to answering your question, but here I go!
Well, all DDlg relationships are different, but the common threads I find are that littles need structure, and that comes through a set of rules. Rules are tailored to your wants and needs. Some rules can be not touching or cumming without permission, and other rules may include allowing your Daddy/Sir to pick out your clothes for the day or even requiring you to do something creative each week. Just be imaginative and come up with things that you are comfortable doing and would like trying!
Then there are rewards and disciplines to go with this. Essentially, the discipline should match the crime. If you cum without permission, then you’re not allowed to cum. If you disrespect your Daddy Dom, then you’ll write lines or an essay about respect. Should you not like these rules, then they aren’t good rules for you. Only pick rules you’re comfortable with and are willing to accept the punishments for breaking. Rewards can include date nights or presents or staying up late, or even extra orgasms.
But really the MOST IMPORTANT THINGS are communication, love, and respect. Communication because it will build strong bonds and a foundation for your relationship, love for obvious reasons, and respect because if you can’t give each other the proper respect, then how would you ever trust each other in scenes?
I can’t break down to you how love and communication goes together in most DDlg-relationships because everyone is different. Personally, when Sir and I were together, he used to know everything I was doing and how I felt about everything because I freely told him so and he did the same. When the relationship started to break down, communication was the first to go, which should show you just how important that is.
Rules and discipline are not meant to hurt you, but rather to build the love and trust between you and your Dom, and allow you to know that you can put yourself safely into his hands.
I wish you the best in your relationship <3