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Personally I don’t know any as it isn’t really my area of expertise, and I make up scenes as I go by the way they feel. I’m not entirely sure exactly what you are looking for, but keep in mind all things can be recreated and revised with a little bit of creativity.
Do our followers have any advice or help for the anon?
The best thing to do is sit down and ask him how he honestly feels about it. Keep in mind that really not all people are made for BDSM, and then a portion of people who are into BDSM won’t be into DDlg. If he seems very apprehensive about it, it might not necessarily be because he doesn’t understand it, but rather because it isn’t the thing for him.
Without knowing how much you’ve told him and he’s read, my best advice is simply sitting down and talking with him about it, and seeing if he has any questions.
Okay, so the last ask made me realize how many of you want to see the specific Problems and not wade through lots of asks, so I used the Mass Post Editor to make it easier for you all!!
All DDlg-Problems can now be found with this tag.
(EDIT: It is now the Purple button on our blog, replacing what was formerly the “Reblog” button as it was never really used.)
I’ve really put off answering this because there are little girl blogs all around you. I can’t pick out just a select few because none are better than the others, they are all wonderful and sweet and deserve just as much attention. Exploring the DDlg tag or finding friends in the community is a great way to start.
Thank you :) We’re glad you enjoy it.
I cannot judge what would work for you and what wouldn’t, but Sir and I had something like this and for us, simply “listening” or “being good” wasn’t a good enough reason for a reward. I had to accomplish a certain number of tasks such as doing the necessary household cleaning as well as my physical therapy, and writing and keeping up with hygiene to get rewards, and the rewards usually took several weeks to accomplish, so I had to work toward them consciously to achieve them.
My opinion is that rewards shouldn’t be handed out - if you want them, then you must put in the effort to get them. However, not every couple will function like Sir and I used to, and certainly not every little will need the strict guidelines and hard setup that I had.
I do not understand what you are asking.
(EDIT: If you mean a specific tag, there is no specific tag. The closest you’ll get is the submission tag. That being said, we use the same tags for every DDlg-Problem we post - oddly enough /tagged/ddlg-problems does not bring up the Problems, despite being the tag on all of them.)
It’s not a dumb question at all.
First just to say, being in a DD/lg relationship is not someone being over the other. The Daddy Dom is not above the little. They are an equal partnership and love each other. Now a selfish wannabe “daddy” will try to say they are above you. No screw that. You are both on equal footing. That goes for any dynamic. BDSM or vanilla. You are equal partners.
For me being a Daddy Dom is supporting my little girl, pushing her to achieve things she never thought she could do. If she has an interest in say writing, I push her to write. I support her to write. When she gets frustrated I comfort her, when she is excited about what she wrote I read it and get excited as well. You love and support them. You help them achieve their goals and you watch them grow so to speak.
DD/lg and Other BDSM roles are power exchange. That is where the submissive (little) gives the Dom(Daddy) power over certain aspects of her life. Some go to a small extent like picking out clothes, rules with personal hygiene.
Example of rules I’ve used :
*May not touch yourself without my permission
*I pick out your panties everyday
*No cumming without permission
*Any drinking/smoking has to be approved by me.
Some rules are set up in a sexy way. Like the cumming rule. Other rules are for her saftey and happiness like the drinking rule. If my little was stressed out and not in a good place, I wouldn’t let her drink. Rules vary couple to couple
And some more extreme power exchange (Master/slave) Give up everything. Some littles dabble in M/s but not all. And you don’t have to.
I have not really heard of a DD/lg relationship where there are no rules. This is just from the couples I’ve seen on tumblr mainly. The rules are decided upon by both people. The Daddy can start them, but for me my little can help me decide what fits us both. What makes us both happy. and that is what DD/lg is about. Being Happy with your partner and living life. I am sure there are Daddy Doms who don’t give rules.( If you are one please let us know and I’ll post anything have to say.) I’m not saying stick with vanilla because I’m all for people exploring their sexuality and living the BDSM lifestyle. But possible make a exploration blog. And follow a bunch of Daddys/littles. ask them questions too. I will always try to help someone learn more because I myself love learning more about BDSM in general.
Thank you for your ask Anon I really hope this helped some. If you’d like to ask more feel free here or my personal blog. I will check both.
I know it was directed to Sir, but I can’t help but add my opinion here :) Personally, I think a DDlg relationship without rules is possible. DDlg is essentially what Sir said about, and it is also about love and trust. A Daddy or Mommy Dom is someone who you trust and feel comfortable enough to show the sensitive side of yourself to.
Now, because the little turns to the Daddy Dom for comfort, usually rules are involved, not to make you feel bad about yourself, but to guide you. As Sir said above, a Daddy Dom is never above you. They are your equals and you get just as much say in the relationship as they do. If a Daddy Dom doesn’t want to listen to what you have to say, then he’s going against your consent and isn’t a true Dom.
If you find someone who loves you, then they’ll understand your needs and will never force you to do more than you can do.
No. If a man does this to you, dump him immediately.
I say this because his lack of care for your pleasure means he’s basically using you as a sex toy, and doesn’t care how you feel. You don’t deserve that at all. You matter, your pleasure matters, and ANYONE who feels that they you should give THEM pleasure but refuse to give it to you deserves to be celibate for life.
~Bunny, who has personally experienced this and feels very strongly about it.
Going to throw in my 2 cents. She said it really well. If he doesn’t care about your satisfaction enough to put down his damn games he doesn’t deserve you. I am an avid gamer, I love playing all kinds of video games. But when it comes to playing around sexually, that most definitely takes priority to video games.
You deserve pleasure and he doesn’t if he finishes and gets up and goes to a stupid game.